In a rapidly transforming society, effective leadership requires a balance of adaptability and steadfastness. Leaders must embody the courage to embrace change while remaining anchored in core values. Reinhold Niebuhr’s prayer reminds us: “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” This perspective underscores the necessity of discernment in navigating change—knowing when to pivot and when to stay the course. 

 

Adaptability also means being comfortable with discomfort. Leadership often places individuals in challenging situations: navigating difficult conversations, speaking publicly, receiving feedback, or making decisions under pressure. As Stone and Heen (2014) state, “It’s about the quality of the relationship, your willingness to show that you don’t have it all figured out, and to bring your whole self—flaws, uncertainties, and all—into the relationship.” Embracing vulnerability fosters authentic relationships and builds trust, even amid discomfort.

 

In my role as Director of Development, I’ve faced moments of profound discomfort, especially during leadership transitions and my navigation of relationships with trustees and colleagues. These experiences taught me the value of perseverance and reflection. By leaning into discomfort and seeking support from mentors and the community, I’ve learned to grow through ambiguity and find clarity in uncertainty. This will guide me to approach challenges with patience and intentionality, anchoring myself in mission and values while remaining open to growth. 

 

At the heart of effective leadership lies the ability to make others feel seen, heard, and valued. Leadership is not about possessing all the answers but about cultivating meaningful relationships. Stone and Heen’s emphasis on bringing “your whole self” into relationships highlights the importance of authenticity and emotional intelligence. 

 

I strive to carry this lesson forward in my work at Thomas Jefferson School. Whether engaging with parents, alumni, or colleagues, I aim to build connections rooted in mutual respect. This approach helps navigate difficult conversations, whether advocating for institutional needs or addressing conflicts. This theory will guide my interactions, ensuring that every decision and action prioritizes the dignity and value of others.

 

A competent leader must balance the paradox of honoring tradition while embracing reform. Overemphasis on stability can stifle innovation, yet change without respect for history risks alienating stakeholders. Leaders must navigate this tension with cultural awareness and strategic foresight. My experiences as an Asian woman immigrant and as a professional in predominantly white institutions have deepened my appreciation for this balance. I’ve often felt the weight of dual cultural and linguistic identities. Even moments of doubt and isolation in the workplace have tested my confidence and strengthened my resilience. This dual perspective informs my leadership approach—acknowledging institutional heritage while advocating for necessary change. At Thomas Jefferson School, I’ve faced decisions that require careful consideration of continuity and transformation.

 

Reflecting on my growth, I’m reminded of leaning into discomfort and valuing all parts of myself. The Klingenstein Center program has been instrumental in this journey, providing a safe space to explore my leadership identity and embrace my unique perspective. Resilience also means seeking feedback and learning from setbacks. Leaders must actively cultivate diverse input sources to refine their vision and actions. This process, though uncomfortable, is essential for growth.

 

My journey and professional experiences deeply inform my leadership framework. Growing up in South Korea and navigating life as an immigrant in the U.S. have shaped my understanding of adaptability, resilience, and relationship-building. These core values guide my behavior as a leader: to embrace discomfort, foster meaningful connections, balance tradition with innovation, and lead with authenticity. In every decision, I strive to honor the dignity of others and the mission of the institution I serve. Leadership is not about perfection but about persistence and growth. As I continue on this journey, I’m committed to leading with humility, courage, and a deep sense of purpose, always grounded in the lessons of my past and the possibilities of the future.